How Not to Date- Book Review.

Smelly Penis!
Ok, now that I have your attention.
Check out the recent book review I wrote for www.LoveHowTo.com
I'm only posting a bit here on the blog...

How Not to Date by Judy McGuire is a first-rate book on, well, how to date.

The author’s quick-witted and well-timed words about dating are a result of her seven-plus years spent mostly single, and as a sex and love advice columnist. She describes right off the get-go in the introduction, "dates that were so heinous it’s truly a wonder that my vagina didn’t seal itself shut."
It’s statements such as this about her own personal life experiences, the good, the bad and the VERY, VERY ugly, that are entirely refreshing, and unlike so many of the other dating books.

One of my favorite McGuire anecdotes is in Part 1, Oooh, That Smell! I have never dated a man who wore vinyl pants and was intrigued to read about the guy she was dating named Ned.

Ned was a strict vegan and refused to wear any leather. Therefore he opted to dress in vinyl pants. Another aspect of Ned’s strict vegan guidelines was his feeling that "cleanliness was just another construct of the bourgeoisie."

Sounds like a fun dinner date to me!

McGuire goes on to write about Ned’s utter "STENCH" and how one night she had to blatantly tell her vegan, vinyl pants-wearing boy to take a shower. It was when he protested the shower idea that she had to explain to him why he HAD to bathe: "because he expected me to put his smelly penis in my mouth."

Love Contracts at Work.

Dating at work...
Office romance is getting more complicated.
Some employers are asking that their employees sign a love contract; as reported on Good Morning America this morning.
To watch the GMA video click here.
Love Contracts

Dating Tips From Tom Leykis?

For those of you that don't know who Tom Leykis is... and based on yesterday's post, I thought that this YouTube video would be interesting for you to check out, it's an interview with Myreah Moore, she is the author of, How to Date Like a Man. I have read her book, and while I'm not going to grow a beard and wear boxers anytime soon, Moore does have some good points.
Again, BIG disclaimer here, I listen to Mr. Leykis for entertainment ONLY!

Radio Advice About Sex and Dating?

On Cinco de Mayo I was listening to The Tom Leykis Show on my way out for the night.

For the most part I don’t agree with a lot of what he has to say, however it’s always entertaining and an interesting study on men, women and yes, also dating.

For the Tequila and Corona beer fueled holiday Mr. Leykis was not surprisingly at a bar, where the loyal Leykis listeners were calling in live to his most likely very intoxicated and captive audience.

There was a man that called in and talked about his girlfriend and, "how she wouldn’t have sex with him for religious reasons.”

As the caller spoke the crowd all together, and at once started screaming repeatedly, “dump that bitch.”

The man then tried to defend his girlfriend and his respectful, no sex decision, by stating how, “smart she is and has a master’s degree...”

Again the man calling in was interrupted, and this time the drunk crowd of men began shouting to him, over and over that, “he is a pussy.”

This got me thinking, so I asked a few of my guy friends if they were drunk and in the same situation even if they didn’t agree with the actions of the majority would they still chime in with the crowd?

And also where is the line drawn between respect for someone’s beliefs and sex?
Regardless of how much alcohol is consumed...

The Rules of Attraction. Part 6

The list of things that make a WOMAN DESIRABLE is endless. The trick is knowing what not to do.
By Ashton Kutcher.
As seen in this months issue of Harper’s Bazaar magazine.

Picking up from last week...This is the last and final part of the article.


BRAND DROPPING Have you ever herd someone say, “Do you like my new Prada sweater?” Broadcasting labels to make people appreciate your style is not becoming. The truth is that most guys don’t know what a Birkin bag looks like, and they couldn’t pick a pair of Christan Louboutins out of a lineup. All that matters is how something looks on you-and if a guy can identify the brand, you’ve found your fashion soul mate. And, yes, I do like your sweater. Who made it ? You can tell me now.

The key to letting everyone else see just how irresistible you are is knowing it yourself. Go outside your comfort zone. If you’re comfortable showing the whole package, show a little less. If you’re not, show a little more. If talking around a big groups is tough, put yourself out there. If it’s easy, hold back. It works both ways.

After that, it’s all about having a little mystery.
That’s attractive.

Don't Be A Slave To Your Dick. Part 4

By David Wygant, DavidWygant.com

Continued from Monday... Part 4.


Once again, I have no issues if you listen to this stuff and it doesn't resonate with you. You don't have to download my stuff anymore, listen to my podcasts any more, or read my blog anymore. I don't care, because I know there is a large percentage of men out there who definitely want to go and elevate their being to the next level and be able to experience how amazing it is to be able to connect with women.

There are the group of guys out there who act like a bunch of predators – all they want to do is have sex with a woman, get off, and not give a shit what she thinks. Hey man, if that's you ... that's cool. But if so, then what I'm talking to you about right now might as well be Svengali . . . because you don't know what I'm saying.

You have no clue what I'm saying, and it's perfectly okay. If you and I hung out and you're one of these guys who objectify women so much, and you don't want to get deep with them and understand really how to connect with them on a higher level, we're going to go to a party and you're going to think I'm some California asshole who's talking out of his ass to women about spirituality. It's not going to resonate with you at all, and that's cool.

If, however, you're in the majority of men out there who after hearing this are saying “Man, I get it! I want to live this life. I've never lived this life, and I'm willing to try to live this life” . . . then you're ready to evolve and move on to the next step and up to the next level.

You're willing to go put your dick in your pants, let your mind connect with a woman, and realize that she is going to pull your dick out of your pants. You're not going to pull your dick out of your pants anymore.

The guys who objectify women walk around all night with their dick in their hands hoping someone is going to stroke it and when these guys go home at night their dick is still in their hands . . . and you know exactly what I'm talking about. So don't be one of these guys and don't be a slave to your dick!

One last zinger. Ask any woman what type of man she would prefer and you will see that the language of love is what I have write here on this site.

To find out about David's, dating coaching, e-books, DVD's and more click here.
DavidWygant.com

David thanks for the words.
I'm glad I didn’t have to post that picture of the pony with the giant penis!
You are welcome to be a expert guest here on my blog anytime you like.

Don't Be A Slave To Your Dick. Part 3

By David Wygant, DavidWygant.com

Continued from Sunday... Part 3.
I think this is solid advice.


Having this mindset of thinking with your dick is also bad for you. It's bad for your soul. For those of you who don't know what I mean by objectification, it's something that our society does all day, every day. It's in magazines and on television. Men objectify women and women objectify men (although men do it more to women). It's in the advertising culture and on television.

It's everywhere, and it permeates every aspect of society to the point where we've dehumanized people. We only look at them for their body parts or what they have to offer us in a physical sense. It's totally fragmented, and doesn't look at the whole person.

We need to continually remind ourselves to look at people as the whole person , and not just as an object or a fragmented person who's simply there for you to blow a load on. You can't do that. It's a major mistake. It's understandable in our society and with the way things are set up, but you have to break away from that.

Be different! Be an individual. Be independent and think differently than the average slave out there. Remember and remind yourself that you're talking to a human being, and that human being has feelings, pressure points, and interests. You can relate to that person. This is not a piece of meat. Always remind yourself of that.

You know, women are not pieces of meat. They are wonderful, beautiful beings with whom to connect. If you don't think this way, then my teachings are not for you. Plain and simple. I've got no issues.

There are guys and teachers out there who will teach you to objectify women. “Here's how you can f&$# this piece of meat and throw her in the garbage the next day. Here's how you can season her with your bullshit, throw her on the grill, eat her, f&#^ her, and then make her feel like an idiot the very next day.” Sure, there are guys who can teach you that. But that's not what I'm all about.

I am about teaching you how to have the greatest sex and to connect with women. When you have that zen power, you're going to have the greatest sex in the world and your mind is going to be controlling it (not your dick).

To be continued.