Thanks so much to today’s guest’s Laura and Wendy!
to hear a re-cap of today’s show go here.
Authentic Dating Show 2-27-08
And to find out more about Wendy Merrill’s engaging, funny and candid book, Falling into Manholes…
This is funny!
Is heavy cell phone use tied to poor sperm quality?
Interesting article on a recent study.
Reuters article on sperm
Since I will be interviewing two women I have decided to title the show;
Men, Mistakes and the Journey Along the Way.
Authentic Dating Radio Show Link
At 8:00 am PST, Laura a BadOnlineDates.com member will be talking about some of her VERY bad and extremely humorous dates.
And at 8:30am PST Author Wendy Merrill, will talk about her book that will be available in March called, Falling into Manholes. The Memoir of a Bad/Good Girl.
Wendy Merrill is a fabulous new every woman’s voice she speaks with honesty, humor and style, Falling Into Manholes explores the contradictions and imperfections of being a woman, in a book about relationships, addiction, self-esteem (and the lack thereof), and going to any lengths to discover what matters. This memoir gives the reader what we all need more of:
a good laugh, an easy read,and hope.
Falling Into Manholes Link
Pre-Order @ Amazon.com
Available March 2008 in bookstores everywhere.
Yesterday I decided to get a massage and while I was on the table I discussed with the male massage therapist my story about the man from the night before, the therapist pointed out an interesting point, he thought that, “I was perceptive to have not gone out with the guy and a lot of women still would have gone.”
Hum, something to chew on…
Do we become so scared of being alone that we will spend time with anyone?
I get that people stay in marriages or very committed relationships for reasons other than love, but if you love yourself during the dating process why would you not follow your gut if you see red flags off the get go?
So for my final night in Vegas, there was no way that I would have tried to reconnect with the man I discussed in yesterday’s post, and I didn’t hook up with the cute man I met at the Blackjack table and partake in, “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas,” kinky sex!
Instead I had a fantastic time having cocktails filled with laughter and intelligence with my sisters, husbands father who recently moved here and after happy hour with him, I had an elegant dinner with a very dear old friend Dave that I have know for twenty five years and his beautiful new wife that was followed with two of their children joining us for desert.
While I did do a quick walk though in the casino next door with my sister’s father- in-law, I think that makes him mine as well?
I looked at the slots in a whole new way based on yesterdays post, it was at that moment that I felt incredibly lucky spending time with loving family and old friends, it felt safe and it didn’t involve any gambling like dating where you just never know what’s going to happen.
At the end of the night I was taking pictures on my way back to my room, the bellman offered to take my picture with the flowers… I thought about it for a minute then agreed, you know a picture is worth a thousand words and my smile here says it all.
Right now I’m in Las Vegas for the weekend and after braving an extremely bumpy fifty minute flight and the notoriously long airport taxi line.
I was supposed to meet a man for a night out on the town that I had met when I was in Laguna Beach for New Years, after I got settled, I text messaged him to let him know that “I was here in Vegas” and much to my surprise the text I got back from him was not a “hey, where are you, what time works for you, where would you like to meet?” but THIS …
”Come by at Monte Carlo.”
For me this was not the best approach to get me into bed or on a dinner date, especially since I barely know him, and to be told what to do… just did sit well with my gut also the hotel had a pretty major fire about three weeks ago.
Monte Carlo hotel fire story
So I sent him a text back asking…
“Didn’t that hotel burn down a few weeks back?”
Honestly, not to be harsh but after receiving his first text I really didn’t want to see him, not only was he telling me what to do, but he was staying at a hotel that recently had fire damage, the whole situation just felt uncomfortable, we are all different however for me, I just wasn’t feeling his vibe and it felt like a Bad Date waiting to happen, I would rather hit the town on my own.
Within minutes he got back to me with a simple…
I called him to talk live since I was uncomfortable with the idea of just blowing him off and by now I was completely turned off by his telling me what to do text message and also by his one word text’s, it just didn’t seem very chivalrous and any notions of a romantic night with him had completely gone up in smoke.
Moving right along here, when I called I got his voice mail, so I left a nice message, basically saying to have a great night and to keep in touch.
Right after I left the message,he sends me another text…
“Jenn..I just got my cell back (long story). Heading back to the Hard Rock I will call ASAP!”
So what I’m having a hard time understanding is how did he get my text messages and my call if he did not have his cell phone also why didn’t he just call?
But… I wasn’t going to put a whole lot of brain power into trying to figure it out I’m in Vegas and up for fun!
I hit the Mandalay Bay casino, played Blackjack for over two hours, won hundred’s of dollars, sat next to a cute guy that got my number, who knows, maybe we will hang out and he will understand the importance of being chivalrous?
Does being LOUD in public also mean you will be LOUD while having sex?
On Monday I was at one of my favorite local Mexican restaurant bar’s with my boyfriend aka my laptop computer.
It’s important to mention with the amount of time I spend with my laptop I’m one hundred percent A-OK with calling it “my boyfriend” and I have also found that “my boyfriend” gives me very little to worry about in terms of loyalty, it’s always hard, smart, doesn’t snore, and fits easily into my handbag for spontaneous travel.
So on Monday evening, yes,it was President’s Day and a holiday,I was out with “my boyfriend” at one of my regular haunts.
It could have been the combined tequila, beer or the President’s Day holiday combo pack that culminated into the extreme loudness, but for the next two hours of my life, honest to god, I have never experienced such a LOUD group of people, even with my ipod turned up to the highest volume while I worked, you know the volume that we are told will cause hearing loss.
Hearing Loss and your MP3
The group behind me was even LOUDER!
So as I sat at the bar it made wonder.
“What’s up with the SHOUTING?”
I did a bit of field research for this post, all in the name of social science of course, and I asked a handful of people their thoughts on, “if you are LOUD in public does that also mean that you will be LOUD while having sex?”
Fascinating, everyone I asked said “YES!”
So, I do have to wonder is there some kind of inhibition filter that somehow gets turned off regardless if it’s while having sex or drinking tequila and beer to honor America’s founding fathers.
Honestly, I do realize that they where just having a good time so I’m not being a buzz kill, but it did get me thinking?
Hey, I know that’s why I go there, to look at the sexy paintings, come to think of it, I also have met some men there that I’ve ended up dating as well, but they weren’t LOUD when we first met at the bar, or in bed…
But, perhaps we just didn’t drink enough tequila…
Boys and Girls this is why wearing a condom is a good idea…
Oh, yes I almost forgot,during today’s interview Dan and Jennifer mentioned this…
Don’t Be That Guy!
The Art of Approaching by Joseph Matthews and here is the link…
Thanks Dan and Jennifer I loved having you on the show today, great and honest advice!Dan and Jennifer can be found at
And to hear today’s very real, and raw conversation on dating, sex, love, relationships, and did I mention orgasm’s you can go here to listen to the archive. Today’s very funny, Authentic Dating radio show