Great advice from guest blogger Shantelle – Yes, I agree 100% keep it real!
By Shantelle Y. Taylor (Pictured above – She is a babe!)
Online dating is a blessing and a curse, at least from my experience anyway. My biggest problem with dating online is the profile pictures. Mainly, I cannot stand the people who post pictures that are 1) from a time (10 years ago) when they were actually attractive and likely 20 pounds skinnier, 2) taken at some angle that miraculously makes them look desirable, or 3) obviously representative of someone else entirely.
t’s the most shockingly ridiculous thing that someone would intentionally fool you into believing they look completely different AND that you would be amenable to it once you meet in person. I know I am usually super stoked about starting a relationship with someone who immediately manipulates me and lies about the most basic of things. Now doesn’t that sound absurd?
Don’t get me wrong, there is NOTHING wrong with posting pictures of yourself that were taken in a certain light, at a certain angle, in a certain outfit where you look your best. And, there definitely isn’t anything wrong with putting your best-of-the-best shot as your profile pic (I mean, you’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do to get people clicking on your page amongst the millions of other singles); however, there should be a law preventing the impostures from pretending to be someone they are not. It’s just not fair.
In my own experience dating online, I’ve been completely, jaw-droppingly shocked by men who:
1) Have a full head of hair in their photos and turn out to be 75% bald
(Thanks for sending me your class photo from your senior year in high school)
2) Have six pack abs in their photos and a 20 lb beer gut in real life
(I guess those pics were taken before your frat boy days, huh buddy?)
3) Completely LIE about their height
(Do you really think I won’t notice that you’re 5’7” instead of 6’ like you said in your profile)
Basically, my point is: don’t feel like you have to lie about or apologize for who you are. Be Real. Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder; but, I guarantee you, it won’t work out well if you string someone along pretending you are someone you aren’t. And another tip: B.E.W.A.R.E of online singles who only have 1 or 2 photos. Remember, even the worst looking people can create 1 or 2 decent photos with a little photoshop action. Just ask to do a photo swap pic-for-pic. But make sure you have a bunch to share as well. It’s only fair. This way, you’ll be a lot less likely to be disappointed if and when you meet in person.