Continuing with the #MoldableMay theme we have this weeks Tuesday’s Topic: Can you change his or her bad hygiene habits?
In all my years of dating I have met a few guys with some really disgusting habits. But I know I am not alone; we’ve all been there. You meet a guy or girl and they seem completely perfect until you discover this one little thing about them. Then you think “oh that’s easy, I can change that” because it really seems like an easy thing to do. After all, people are so easy to change, right?
I once dated a guy who always had food on his floor. And not just little crumbs from the night before. No, we are talking potato chips, pieces of dried and shriveled up meat from pizza, and an unknown crusty yellowy substance. It seemed like every time I went over there the stuff was in the exact same place. To this day I am not entirely convinced he actually owned a vacuum.
I also dated a guy who had the worst aim ever. I am assuming that this isn’t rare and I will admit that being a woman I really don’t get it. I mean, you guys can actually see right? But this guy somehow managed to urinate on the floor around the toilet. It was almost like he was marking his territory. And I wasn’t really that appalled that it actually happened because, to be technical, every guy could do that. I was more confused about why he didn’t clean it up. I mean, if I did that I wouldn’t want people to know. But like I said, I am a woman so I can’t relate.
Then there was the guy with the most beautiful kitchen I have ever seen. Well, that is I think it would have been if it wasn’t for the empty takeout containers stacked on the counter and the dried food stuck to the inside of the sink. I could never really understand that one. Why keep the containers?
The list could go on and on. But like I said, I am not the only one. Though, I’ve learned a couple of things when it comes to this type of thing.
First, we all have disgusting habits that annoy other people. Sometimes I don’t change my sheets for far longer than I will publicly mention. My laundry piles up. There is hair in my drain and sometimes my sponges smell. I am also totally guilty of smooshing the trash down instead of just changing the bag. Though my dad always did that so I am convinced some of these things are just genetic.
Second, you will probably never change someone else’s habits. It’s easy to think “I can change that” and sure, maybe there can be a couple of things that will change over the years but that’s really only when the person doing it is bothered by it. But really, it’s probably never going to change.
However, I don’t think the key is changing any of it — it’s more about finding a way to live with it all. Maybe you need separate bathrooms or bedrooms (or maybe you just need separate houses altogether). Unfortunately if you are going to date and/or marry someone that means accepting them. All of them.
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