Is snoring a deal breaker? I recently started spending the night over at the guy’s home that I’ve been seeing for the past three months. He snores like a lumberjack…. Is this a dating deal breaker?
Snoring happens to be a major pet peeve of mine. When my parents come to visit, I have to rely on earplugs, a pillow over my head and a heavy dose of Ambien to get through the night…and they sleep down the hall from me. I don’t know that I could take a man chain-sawing his way through my slumber, but that’s just me.
While I might be a light sleeper and am driven crazy by any repetitive noise—like the sound of snoring, water dripping, music playing, etc—you have to weight your options and decide if you really want to throw the baby out with the bathwater.
If he’s worth losing a little sleep over, there are always the old standby tricks, like elbowing him in the ribs when he gets going, but why not also try some Breathe Right strips, a homeopathic remedy or a humidifier in the bedroom? If things don’t get better snoring-wise but the relationship becomes more serious, you can always consult a doctor, or, better yet, find several creative and intimate ways to keep him awake.
The truth is everyone—yes, even you and I—has something that could be a deal breaker, whether it’s bad breath, a nasty habit or nasal passages that echo like the Holland Tunnel. What makes a relationship work is when you decide to love even that super annoying, awful part of another person anyway, just as they love you in spite of all your shortcomings and peccadilloes.
I think you’d be best served to invest in a solid pair of earplugs and some Unisom while you get to know this guy, warts and all, a little better.
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