I’ve been dating a woman that I met in yoga for around 6 months very casually; she is wonderful in many ways… but not as passionate about her life and professional career as I am. Do you think that if we get serious, and try to take it to the next level that this is going to cause a big problem?
Passionate about life
Dear Passion Player,
Isn’t yoga all about lack of competition and moving at the pace that best suits you? That seems to be the philosophy your lady has about life as well, while you’re bringing a certain amped-up, power mentality better suited to spinning or power lifting. Deep breathe it out and “om” with me, my man. Let people live! I think what you need is to try the same kind of compassionate, Namaste attitude that first brought you two together. Salute the light within her and accept the fact that not everyone is going to share your priorities. And that’s okay.
The coolest thing about the merging of two people, who choose to come together in the Downward Dog of Life, is that you get to learn and grow from one another.
I used to have a boyfriend who grew up in a small town, hadn’t seen a lot, read a lot or experienced a lot, and my most frequent phrase to him was, “Let’s broaden your horizons.” The basis of our relationship became excursions to museums, plays, art galleries, and new restaurants to break him out of the Simpsons/Olive Garden cycle he was stuck in. While the relationship didn’t last, that time made both of us better, more interesting people.
There’s nothing more interesting than being interested and there’s nothing more inspiring than being inspired. Share your passion and see if it helps hers flourish and grow. If it doesn’t, you can always sun salutation your way on to the next lady who’s down for some sexy savasana (corpse pose).
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