So apparently, for some odd reason, interracial dating is still considered an “issue” in some places. I know, weird, right? I grew up surrounded by people of every different race, class, and sexual orientation, thus, I was always a little perplexed by this concept that a black man and a white woman shouldn’t be together, simply because of the color of their skin. Well, as it turns out it goes a little deeper than skin, though that is quite debatable as well.
But seeing as how I’m not an expert in all those silly heterosexual relationships, I posed a question for my own community: Is interracial dating frowned upon in the gay community?
I thought, at first, the answer would be obvious—whether we are gay or straight, we still have the same social constructs that everyone else has, so who we’re attracted to shouldn’t affect that, right?
Well, I’ve looked around a whole lot, and I just can’t seem to find anyone who has a problem with it. I mean, amongst my friends, we all joke about it, but in reality, we don’t care. Perhaps it’s because I live in Los Angeles, where white people are actually a minority, and we’re too busy looking fabulous and tan to worry about it. Perhaps it’s because I surround myself with people who are so liberal that I’m surprised they bathe on a regular basis or pay their taxes. Either way, it seems to boil down to my favorite phrase to say to anyone who bothers me.
NO ONE CARES.
The gay community is already a minority. We don’t have the same rights and liberties as you heterosexuals, so for us to judge another minority seems awfully hypocritical. Especially considering we are trying desperately to be considered equal.
The same goes for our families too, I suspect. After coming out of the closet, our families have to learn how to accept us for who we really are—this is not easy, and can strain relationships (but ultimately, make them much, MUCH stronger). After something as emotionally painful as that, having a problem with interracial dating seems, well, silly.
I’m certainly not an expert on the matter, but for us gays, the only thing that stands in the way is the physical aspects. Personally, I’m not extremely attracted to black men—not because I have a problem with them being black, but because I just usually don’t find them attractive. That being said, if T.I. or Taye Diggs ever reads this, give me a call, because I’d have sex with either of you until the cows come home. And don’t you dare stand in the way between me and my sexy Latin men. Or Middle Eastern. Oh, I love Brazilian’s too. And El Salvadorians….
…Sorry, I got distracted.
Anyways, my attraction to someone has very little to do with who they are on a social, cultural or racial standing—it’s merely physical. It’s not like we’re going to have pretty mixed race babies (although I’d love to have me a little girl with mocha skin and a Jewish nose, and she’d be so cute and I’d make her have a Mohawk, and I’d name her Raven).
Like I said, I’m no expert. But I’m pretty sure if I brought home a fine piece of chocolate to my mom, she wouldn’t even blink. And my friends would be jealous, because he’d be sexy, and he’d be mine.