Dear Sasha: Answering Your Most Private Dating Questions –- Dating Rut?
- Posted on: February 8th, 2013 by Jennifer
I’m dating in a dating rut.
No matter how much I try to motivate, it’s just not happening.
What suggestions do you have for a fella that just can’t seem to get out of the new year dating door?
I get it—a new year met with new resolutions to find love, lose ten pounds, write your memoirs and finish a 10K, am I right?
Come on, man! We all know resolutions are made to be forgotten. There’s nothing that stipulates a new year has to mean a new you.
I know it’s hard not having someone special to kiss, but don’t force yourself to do something you don’t feel up to just because there’s a new Word of the Day Calendar on your desk. If dating feels lame and stuck in a rut right now, maybe it means you need some Me Time to focus on yourself.
When you do feel motivated and enthused to get back out there—and, again, let me urge you not to do anything until you genuinely feel ready and excited to dive back in. If you’re just going through the motions, your date will sense the effort and feel self conscious or turned off—you need to make dating fun again.
There are very few things as sexy as passion, so lose the old routine of dinner and a movie and turn your dates into adventures. Try something you’ve always wanted to experience, get lost and see where the night takes you, sign up for a one-night class with your date and learn to cook or throw pots or spear fish; whatever gets your engine revving. Trust me, most people would way rather spin around on an ice rink, go to a whiskey tasting or visit a planetarium than sit at a coffee shop telling you about their siblings or where they went to high school.
Make each date an adventure and you might just find the spark to light your fire again.
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