I’m posting Dinner Date Part 2 of 2 a bit sooner than my regular Wednesdays posts, as I will be traveling Sunday-Thursday and not quite sure how my wireless internet connection will be in the mountains.
For a few weeks I processed the night I talked about in Part One of this post…
It was interesting to me that I became so completely turned off by his picking and poking, his not sharing, and what he didn’t eat. Clearly he’s not a good match for me; however it did get me thinking about how eating meals together is a very basic primal bonding experience.
With that being stated…
For all cultures, many of life’s celebrations are built around meals. Where would a birthday party be without birthday cake? Or a pig roast without a pig? Would you really want to go a Thanksgiving dinner with no turkey, stuffing or sweet potatoes? Would it feel “right” to celebrate Valentine’s Day without a box of chocolates and champagne, or how about going out for your wedding anniversary dinner and not eating any dinner?
Of course, with all our celebration meals, there is a downside. We have just ended the holiday season where perhaps we indulged in a bit too much food at the company party or at the parents’ house (I know I did). How many of us make a New Year’s resolution to lose a few pounds like Bridget Jones here?
Food for thought…
Have you ever heard someone say, “I ate absolutely nothing over the holidays and my New Year’s Resolution is to gain five pounds, since I absolutely starved myself during the holiday season?”
Holiday indulgence aside, sharing a meal with someone is one of the oldest date activities in the book. I don’t think it’s a coincidence. Do we go on dinner dates just because it’s the norm? Or are we unconsciously testing to see if we are attracted to or repulsed by our date based on how he or she eats?
Check out this Dinner Date. Even though her date is noticeably stiff and not much of a conversationalist, there is always the possibility that they will bond purely over her home-cooked meal. And who knows? Perhaps she will even get lucky later in the evening.
Cleary this woman will NOT be getting lucky on her date!
I‘m a firm believer in the old saying, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”
For me, a great meal with people I like is one of life’s joys. When I think back to my Dinner Date experience with the Poker and Picker guy, I actually feel bad for him because I have to wonder if other people would feel the same way I did on a primal level. What do you think?