Dealmakers: How to Make a Great Date or Pickup

Back as a guest blogger and with more good advice, is SmoothTalker from

I especially like his advice about; “keeping your fingernails clean.”

Personally, when I see a man with dirty nails … it typically makes me wonder – that – if he’s not doing some kind of hard labor, or a mechanic – just how long has the dirt been there, and what exactly is it?

Speaking from my own personal experience, a man with dirty nails, has also been reflective of other things in his life…

Dealmakers: How to Make a Great Date or Pickup

By Lee “SmoothTalker” Coles, PullJoy©

Staying out the friend zone. Establishing an emotional connection. Humor without corn, and confidence without pretense. These are things men strive to do when they meet a woman to whom they are attracted. Though one could hardly tell it by the actions of some, no one intends to spook a woman with their eye contact, gross them out with their breath, or turn them off with conversation about ex-‘s. Yet woman complain about meeting guys who do one or more of the above. How can you avoid being “that guy”? Simple

Be well-groomed

Attention to fashion and personal style, and the effort involved in finding one’s appropriate look (and I don’t mean business attire or jeans and sneaks) is appreciated by beautiful women. Most of the women you are highly attracted to take time selecting their outfits, and don’t eat everything in sight. When you demonstrate that you have an eye for detail, and a personal cleanliness, it follows that you will have a neat crib, should sex be on the agenda later. It also distinguishes you from the masses, who have two looks- workday and off day. Take tips from some men’s mags, and be as original as possible. Keep breath fresheners with you, and your fingernails clean.

Have fun

You’re not at work or in class. You can discuss anything (except religion, heavy politics, and past girlfriend details). Keep it light. Ask her and her friends a brain teaser or two, playfully read her palm, or ask what she’d do if she won $2.5 million. There is potential for humor all around you- the quirky weather, the traffic on the way there, the loud band. Good natured sarcasm is good (think Leno or Conan). Browse the movie, music, or game section of a store or stores- there’s plenty to talk about there. Do outdoorsy things, and take a blanket you can spread out. If you watch a movie, opt for a rental or DVD in the comfort of your crib, not a flick in a crowded multiplex where you can’t see each other or talk.

Create sexual energy

Be yourself, don’t feel any pressure to impress a woman. She’s only human and imperfect, and you’re just getting to know her. Try to to ask for her phone number without asking a little about her interests, it’s more personal. If it’s late, or gets there, small spots are favorable to large establishments, and drives and walks beat sitting in one place for a long period, unless the atmosphere is great and cozy, or you’re on the beach. It helps to know something about art, nature, or good literature, these topics take one far from the workplace, and provide insight into the personality. Telling someone you’re a banker or a software designer says very little about who you are as an individual. When the aforementioned humor elicits laughter, a light tap of her hand or shoulder is appropriate acknowledgement to initiate touch. And look into her eyes when you ask something.

Be personable, personal and spontaneous and you’ll do well. Look the part, and do interesting things. Dealbreaker guys are a dime a dozen.


Summer Love or Just a Summer Fling – Seduction at the Beach

Courtesy of…

Summer Love – The Best Love Stories of All Time

Courtesy of… Readers Digest.

How to Impress Girls!

How to Impress Girls

Still… I’m Asking – Are These Men Behaving Like Men?

Even down to the final four, I’m still wondering are… These men acting like men?

On the ABC show The Bachelorette.

I think that DeAnna giving Graham the boot – the only “man” go. Was a mistake!

You can see what he has to say about his departure from the show’s link above.

After all, in front of the cameras, competing against other men (game show style), and in a very short period of time what kind of man would be so willing to, “open up?”

DeAnna’s big issue with Graham – to the point that DeAnna snapped at him, as she sent him packing at the rose ceremony, because… “he didn’t let his walls down for her.”

I can’t blame him, and you know what else, as the show has progressed, the more I think DeAnna is, self-absorbed, extremely high maintenance, and is looking for a man that will cater to her every eye lash batting, wish and whim.

Not sexy – on any level!

The Bachelorette 2008 – Episode 6 (part seven)

Summer Love – How to Have Steamy Summer Sex

Courtesy of… Cosmopolitan magazine.

Summer Love and Sexy Summer Movies

Compliments of… Glamour magazine.

Summer Love and Secret Crushes

Still in the theme of summer love. I’m guest blogging today on Pulljoy:The Secrets of a Pickup Artist, about my secret crush!

Summer Love Playlist

Along with a great bottle of wine, what would summer love be, without music?

Here are twenty-seven great songs to make out to!

To this day, the number one song on this list: Can’t You See, by The Marshall Tucker Band reminds me of Eddie and Stenny, and my summers spent on Catalina Island.

Hum… I think I was either thirteen or fourteen, and Stenny broke my young heart!

Luckily, I have bounced back.

Truly, music for me is like a road map to my own personal love life, and summer loves.

1. Can’t You See – The Marshall Tucker Band
2. The Winter – Sister Hazel (Live & Acoustic)
3. Late For The Sky – Jackson Brown
4. Reach For The Sky – Social Distortion
5. Shine A Light – Rolling Stones (Live)
6. Grains Of Wrath – Bad Religion
7. Don’t Take Me For Granted – Social Distortion
8. Hard Sun – Eddie Vedder
9. Salute Your Solution – The Recounters
10. Diamonds On The Inside – Ben Harper, From the Austin City Limits Music Festival (2003 Collection)
11. Jolene – The White Stripes
12. Supply & Demand – Amos Lee
13. Rainbow – G. Love featuring Jack Johnson
14. Feel Like Makin’ Love – Bad Company
15. I Just Want To Make Love To You – Van Morison
16. I’ll Be There – Jackson 5
17. Turn The Page – Bob Seger
18. Sexual Healing – Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals
19. California – DaKah Hip Hop Orchestra
20. Love You Again – John Hiatt
21. Bright Lights – Matchbox Twenty
22. Want You Bad – The Offspring
23. Love & Hope – Ozomatili
24. (Find a)Reason To Believe – Rod Stewart
25. Loving Cup – The Rolling Stones
26. One Time – The Subdudes
27. Love Reign Over Me – The Who

Summer Love and Wine

What would summer love be… without some summer wine?

Nancy Sintra and Lee Hazlewood – Summer Wine (1967)

For sure it’s better, than the warm summer beer that I drank when I was younger!

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Jennifer Kelton CEO / founder LLC is a Los Angeles native and a pioneer in the worldwide dating industry, investigating the game of love while providing encouragement and support since 2007, starting with the acclaimed dating book Don’t Use My Sweater like a Towel. An accomplished CEO, visionary and entrepreneur, Kelton’s work in the […]

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