Even the happiest of couples fight. In fact, most people will tell you that it’s a sign of a healthy relationship because you feel comfortable enough to assert your wants and needs. Unfortunately you can’t really control when the time comes for you to assert those wants and needs. Sometimes it comes when you are in the privacy of your own home. Sometimes it comes when you are over at a friend’s. And, sometimes it might even come when you are in the middle of the grocery store.
However, no matter what the situation is, I am not really a fan of airing my dirty laundry for the entire world to see. To me that doesn’t really solve anything. More often than not it really just makes a little problem into a much bigger one.
So I think it’s safe to say that when a guy yells at me in public that makes me feel pretty crappy. Actually it’s even beyond crappy.
It’s completely and utterly disrespectful
It’s not just disrespectful to me but also to the relationships and I would even say to the guy himself. If you care about me then you shouldn’t want to embarrass me in public so either mention something to me quietly or just let it go until we get to a private place.
It makes me feel embarrassed
I don’t mind a little attention in public but that’s generally only fun when I am being funny or if I am drunk (and therefore I don’t really notice). I also don’t really even mind it when people around me are being a little silly. But it’s a whole other ball game when someone is yelling at you. And honestly, it’s really no fun having people stare at you because your boyfriend is being a crazy idiot.
It makes me feel a little helpless
I am a pretty outspoken kind of woman. If you yell at me that’s only going to fire me up and make me want to yell back. However that’s just going to create and even bigger problem. And as much as I hate being yelled at in public, I hate having an all-out argument in public even more.
It’s almost a little abusive
If a guy can’t control himself in public it kind of makes me wonder where else he can’t control himself. Now, don’t get me wrong here, there are places where it’s fine to be out of control. But yelling and/or arguing with me is definitely not one of those places. I won’t say that a guy who yells in public is most definitely abusive but I will say that it can often head in that direction. And I will also say that kind of scares me.