Friday’s Fashion Dating Do or Don’t? – A Man’s Take on What’s Really SEXY

  • Posted on: August 12th, 2011 by

By J.R. Reed aka Sexandthesingledad

The word, “Sexy” is an odd word. Ask 100 people what they think sexy is and you’re likely to get 100 different answers. There will be a lot of similarities in some answers, but everyone has their own unique (and sometimes frightening) opinion on what makes a woman sexy.

To me, sexy is as much about attitude as it is a big set of boobs or a nice ass in a tight pair of jeans. A well-placed wink or a smirk that says, “Kneepads? I don’t need kneepads. Now get over here and let me unzip you,” is sexy no matter what the girl is (or isn’t) wearing.

A sexy smile. A sparkle in her eyes. The way she carries herself. These are all ways a woman can be sexy. An average looking woman with self-confidence and a nice smile is way sexier than a cute woman who exudes arrogance and makes you feel inferior.

That being said, there are certain things that most men will think is sexy, regardless of the woman. Let’s start at the beginning of the day.

There’s not much that will beat bed-head. A woman sitting up in bed with her hair all over the place is straight up sexy. If you’re waking up next to her it’s even better. After she climbs out of bed, if she throws on one of your dress shirts, it’s sexier still. The more buttons she “forgets” to button, the higher the sexy factor.

One doesn’t have to have a foot fetish to appreciate a sexy pair of shoes. They’re called Fuck Me pumps for a reason, right? It doesn’t matter if she’s wearing a short skirt, a tight pair of jeans or some nasty lingerie, a sexy pair of shoes will make the night more enjoyable.

I’ve got a huge fist bump waiting for whoever invented the push-up bra. Whoever did definitely has a handle on the whole sexy thing. A woman with a little extra something pushing up is always a welcome sight. It doesn’t matter if the shirt is low cut and shows the extra cleavage or if it’s a tight shirt that shows us exactly what she’s packing under the hood, it’s a great sight to behold.

There is a difference between sexy and slutty. Tight and low cut are always appreciated, but (believe it or not) there is such a thing as too low cut and too tight. It’s kind of like the Supreme Court’s stance on pornography—I can’t tell you exactly what too tight or too low cut is, but when I see it, I will know.

Maybe it’s because I’m a writer, but I find the whole sexy librarian thing to be a huge turn on. A cute woman with some glasses and her hair up is mmm-mmm good. If she invites me into the back room to discuss Longfellow, it’s even better.

A woman who is into sports is all the way sexy. If she wears the ladies style football and/or hockey jersey she gets 1000% sexier. Who wouldn’t love to see a woman in a tight Raiders jersey with the number 69 emblazoned across her heaving breasts? If you’re not a Raiders fan, I understand. Go ahead and insert your favorite team. If all goes well, you may very well be inserting something else after the game is over. Or at halftime.

Ultimately, sexy is in the eye of the beholder. Guys, don’t be afraid to tell your woman what you think is sexy, but when you do, be tactful. “Mmmmm, baby. You would look amazing in this shirt,” is going to get a better response than, “You’d look a lot better if you wore this.” If you don’t believe me, try it both ways and see which way gets you some action.

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